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Sunday, March 23, 2008

More Characteristics of Adult Children

Author: Unknown

We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.

We are unable to ask for what we need.

We are super responsible or super irresponsible.

We are hypersensitive to the needs of others.

We became aware of feelings which seem to separate us from others and we often find ourselves depressed. Depression is epidemic in many alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional families.

We became addicted to excitement.

We became compulsive and obsessive in our own behaviors.

We confuse love with pity. We tend to “love” people we can pity and rescue.

In our desire to be needed we gravitate to people we feel need us. When those people outgrow their need for us we lose them.

We act superior around people who we feel need us. Our own feelings of inadequacy are hidden in those positions of superiority.

We grieve for the family we never had.

We guess at what normal is.

We have difficulty following a project from beginning to end.

We lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.

We overreact to changes over which we have no control.

We constantly seek approval and affirmation.

We are afraid of people, especially authority figures.

We feel guilty if we stand up for ourselves. So, we give in to others.

We are dependent personalities who will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience that pain of abandonment.

We don’t understand how to set boundaries for ourselves or others.

We have stuffed back our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our true feelings.
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