Listen

Author: Unknown

When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving advice,
you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way;
you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem,
you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I asked you to do was listen,
not talk or do – just hear me.
Advice is cheap; 30 cents will get you both Dear Abby
and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,
you have contributed to my fear and weakness.

But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,
no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you
and get on with the business of understanding what’s
behind the irrational feeling. And, when that’s clear, that answers are obvious and I don’t need advice. Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.

Perhaps that’s why prayer works, sometimes, for some people,
because God is mute, and He doesn’t give advice or try to fix things.
He just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.

So, please listen and just hear me.
And, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn; and I’ll listen to you!
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